“Peace is not the absence of conflict but the ability to cope with it”
Being a psychologist I meet numerous people on a daily basis with various issues. And from my experience with them there is a common underlying factor for every issue – Conflict.
Conflict is inevitable and conventional in our everyday life. Everyone experiences some form of conflict, either internal or external. Internal conflict associate with mix of emotions people experience which may lead to misunderstanding to certain subjects and overreacting beyond their point of view. Internal conflict can become a reason for external conflict, thus involving more individuals and affecting the general atmosphere. naturally, the conflict becomes more difficult to settle. These conflicts may include; social conflicts, family conflicts and racisms. Some conflicts begin from little things and form a cycle to further conflicts, as it becomes larger.
Generally, conflicts pertain to the topic under discussion or rather the real process by which a desired result is obtained. Conflicts can also arise from relational issues. These disputes center on how parties want to be treated by one another. Issues related to ego or identity arise when people communicate in ways that imply face-threats and naturally, they are perceived as blots on the face each of us wants to communicate socially. It is important to note that most disputes involve a combination of these issues.
Once the conflict issue is identified, the decision of how to respond must be made. Often, steering clear of a conflict is seen as a astute choice yet it is much recommended to resolve the situation as soon as it arises. Accommodating is a way of preserving peace while competing has the opposite effect.
“CONFLICT: A conflict is a situation when the interests, needs, goals or values of involved parties interfere with one another.”
Is conflict a bad thing? Not necessarily. Often a conflict is a result of perception. Conflict presents opportunities for improvement. Therefore, it is important to understand (and apply) various conflict resolution techniques. It is a common phenomenon in everyday life, hence it becomes very important to manage it.
Conflict management is the capacity for Identification and handling of conflicts in a sensible judicious and competent manner. We all have different personal styles to approach conflicts and many at times these styles may not be useful to deal with the particular situation. Conflicts are different in nature; therefore the ways to approach them should also be different. Many at times individuals use one size fits all approach which fails 90% of the time. This is where we help you identify your style of approaching conflicts and equip you with the best ways to approach different types of conflicts.